Some couples choose to skip the traditional head table for their wedding meal and rent a sweetheart table instead so they can dine as a newly wed couple. If this seems like something you’d like to try for your event, here are some of the pros and cons of the sweetheart table, as well as some ideas for how to make it work.

Sweetheart Table: Why They Work

It’s All About You. At a sweetheart table, you will be a focal point at the event. Guests can focus on you and your new spouse. This allows you to kiss with clanged glasses, to see all of your guests and have them see you.
Skip the Soap Opera. A sweetheart table could save you the drama of designating a “head table.” Family dynamics are different for everyone. Do you have a mother-in-law and step-mother-in-law who won’t sit at the same table? Do the best man and a bridesmaid have a dramatic past and refuse to speak to each other? Then a sweetheart table is a great option to avoid awkward moments.
Easy Access. A sweetheart table makes it easier for guests to come talk to you and visit. You will not be in conversation with your bridal party or family, so people will feel free to approach you. This allows guests that might need to leave early or those who want to share a special memory an opportunity to spend time with you.

Sweetheart Table: What to Consider

Front and Center, Like it or Not. If you do not like to be a focal point and have all your guests staring at you, a sweetheart table may not be a good option for you and your spouse.
Less “Privacy.” On a similar note, if you do not want to be visited by guests during your meal, it might be better to sit at a head table. This allows people to see that you are sharing some conversation and memories with your nearest and dearest, and approach you at a different time.
Too Small? Sweetheart tables can be a little cramped for some couples. On the flip side, if the table is large enough to accommodate a full size centerpiece it can look like too much table. Even a table that seems to be the right size might be too small if guests come up to say hello and put a plate or purse down or give you a special momento.

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Once You Decide: Options and Tips

So you’ve weighed the pros and cons and decided on a sweetheart table for your wedding meal. Now it’s time to choose the best type of table for you and your loved one. Here are some ideas to get you started.

A small round table is the most popular option. This allows for two chairs, two plates, and usually not much else. One thing that might help with space issues is to use a table one size bigger. This allows for a centerpiece, your belongings, and items people might bring you. Another great idea is to add two extra chairs which can be used as visiting chairs. This allows friends and family to come have a quick seat and enjoy a few minutes of your company, while you continue your meal.
A high top table is a more modern option. This allows you to see all of your guests better and allows them to see you. The other benefit of a higher table is that it allows guests to chat with you at your table without you feeling the need to stand up. It seems that most people say they do not get a chance to sit at their weddings. A tall stool gives you the ability to “perch” and at least take a little of the load off.
A full length tablecloth, also known as a full drop linen, is a great option on a sweetheart table. You will have a lot of eyes on you, and a floor length tablecloth prevents people from staring at your legs and how you are sitting (shoes or no shoes!). This also allows you to use the space under the table as storage for personal belongings.
You don’t need to decorate your sweetheart table identical to the larger dining tables at your event. Keep in mind this table is smaller and might be overpowered by the the large centerpieces that adorn your other tables. Also remember people want to see you at your sweetheart table, not your centerpiece.

Whether you decide on a sweetheart table or a head table, there are countless options to make your first meal as a married couple one you’ll always remember.